My fiance and I are having a very small wedding outside (weather permitting) of a bed and breakfast. We decided that we would like it to stay very small and settled on our parents, grandparents, his brother and wife, and (since I have no siblings) my best friend. On my Dad's side of the family, I am very close with my aunt and uncle, and I do not think they really understand the meaning of a small wedding, since most people on that side of the family invite second counsins, etc. The other day, we all went out to lunch (my mom, cousin, aunt, and grandma from my dad's side of the family), and my grandma asked how the wedding planning was coming since she knew that I had left one day from her house to go get my gown. We are not inviting my aunt, and I have not quite figured out how to tell her that she is not invited. Would it be ok to write her a letter? Should I mention where and when we will be getting married even though she will not be invited?
If I don't handle it soon, it will be very awkward everyone time I see them all together!
Help!
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Re: Only inviting parents, grandparents
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Dear Uhleashuh,
No. This is better handled verbally, whether in person or by phone. A letter would be like sending an announcement before the wedding, which is an insult. So, buck up and talk to her . She should understand if you approach it in a kind manner.
Only inviting parents, grandparents
. She should understand if you approach it in a kind manner. 