Should mother's name be listed on wedding program if she's not invited
Hello,
My mother is not invited to my wedding for reasons I don't want to get into. Should my mother's name be listed even though she is not invited? I appreciate the etiquette guidance!
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Aug 22, 2007, 10:41 AM
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Re: [groomquestion] Should mother's name be listed on wedding program if she's not invited
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Dear Groomquestion,
If your mother is not hosting, it isn't necessary to list her name. Parents' names don't have to be listed if the couple is hosting.
Re: [Et.byRebecca] Should mother's name be listed on wedding program if she's not invited
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Thank you. Perhaps I should clarify further. My fiance's parents are hosting the reception, my father is hosting the rehearsal dinner (and paid for the giveaways). My fiance's parents' names will be listed. My father's name will be listed. I really don't know what to do about my mother, however. Thanks in advance.
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Aug 23, 2007, 10:28 AM
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Re: [groomquestion] Should mother's name be listed on wedding program if she's not invited
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If you don't want her name listed anywhere on the invitation, then don't. She won't be attending and it doesn't seem as if you want her mentioned. This is fine. But, if you wish to list her as your mother, you can. It could be:
Your name on the invitation
also the son of Mrs. Amy Jones. Rebecca Black, Etiquette Now
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Aug 23, 2007, 12:49 PM
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Re: [Et.byRebecca] Should mother's name be listed on wedding program if she's not invited
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Thank you, again. I just wanted to clarify that this does not pertain to the invitation, but the wedding ceremony program. I am setting myself up for abuse either way...(1) we list her name and I hear "Why did you put mom's name if you didn't invite her?", or (2) we don't list her name in the section where it lists parents of the groom and we hear "Why didn't you put mom's name there?"
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Aug 23, 2007, 1:02 PM
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Re: [groomquestion] Should mother's name be listed on wedding program if she's not invited
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Leave out the program? It is not mandatory to have a program.
Do what YOU feel is best because, as you know, you can't please all of the people all of the time. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
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Aug 23, 2007, 1:25 PM
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Re: [groomquestion] Should mother's name be listed on wedding program if she's not invited
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I'm sorry I completely blanked on this being about the program. And, I most heartily agree that the program is not necessary. This would solve your problems.
If your bride must have one, you could leave your mother's name off the program. If you are faced with the abuse you anticipate, you could simply state that you did your research and the program is only meant to inform wedding guests of the principle players in attendance and elements of the ceremony they are about to view. Rebecca Black, Etiquette Now
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