Bride's father is divorced from bride's mother. The bride lived with her father only from the age of 12 until adulthood, and spent much time with him previous to that.
Because the biological mother was basically unfit, father's long-time girlfriend became the mother figure in the bride's life. The bride basically sees her as "Mom", while maintaining only a on-again, off-again relationship with her mother. The bride's father and girlfriend do not live together. However, the father's girlfriend is paying a substantial amount of the wedding cost and purchased the wedding gown; the bride wants her named on the program.
Complicated, I know . . . but how to proceed??
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Re: [Anxious] Wedding Program Wording
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Dear Anxious,
Hopefully the biological mother is not attending so there is no noticable preferences for the mother figure. However, if the bride has lived with the father and sees another woman as mother, these two would be seated in the first row, with the mother seated in the third.
This is not typical because children usually live with the mother. But, the parent with whom the bride has lived most of her life or closest to sits up front. So... this means that the mother figure can be listed as honored guest and be seated as one of the mothers.
This would have to be handled carefully so as to avoid embarrassment for either of them.
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