Wedding Program how to refer to deceased parent & step parents
I have reviewed posts for hours and have found similar, but not exactly the same questions being answered to what I need to find out. My fiance's mother is deceased and his father has remarried. In addition, my parents are divorced and do not get along, and my mother is very easily hurt and slighted. My question is: On my wedding program I am listing, under the heading of parents, "Parents of the Groom" The Late CE and Mr. and Mrs. WE" and "Parents of the Bride, "Mrs. GQ and Mr. and Mrs. AQ." My aim is to make the names of both sets of our biological parents stand out. We are also honoring his mother at our ceremony, along with all of our deceased grand parents. Is the way I listed the parents appropriate? Does one have to name the step parents?
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Oct 15, 2007, 9:35 AM
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Re: [squenault] Wedding Program how to refer to deceased parent & step parents
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Dear Squenault,
It isn't appropriate to write a deceased person's name under the heading of "Parents" because she isn't attending. The program informs the guests of the principals' (those who are there) names and the order of events. It would be confusing to list her and she isn't there.
If you wish to include her name, you could list it at the bottom as 'in memoriam'. The grandparents could be listed here as well.
You could include a candle lighting for those who have passed and this could be listed on the program. If so, you wouldn't need the 'in memoriam'.
It isn't mandatory to list step parent's names. But, it is polite. You could list parents separately as: Mother of the Bride--Ms. ...
Father of the bride and wife--Mr. ... and Mrs. ...
Wedding Program how to refer to deceased parent & step parents
