My step daughter and my husband have a wonderful relationship. We are paying for 100% of the wedding which we are thrilled to do. He has always dreamed of the day he would walk his daughter down the aisle. She has just told him that she would like both her parents to walk her down the aisle. He is crushed. The mother is fully involved in all aspects of the wedding and despite the fact that we are paying for the wedding, we've really allowed them full say over the details (as it should be). My husband just feels this was his one big role - reserved just for him. I suggested that he just tell his daughter how he feels - which he did - and now she's furious. What are your thoughts?
This is unfortunate. Your husband was right to speak to her about this if he was upset and I can see why he wanted this honor. But, it is a positive trend to have both parents escort the bride. It is actually a Jewish tradition.
It is very unfortunate that she became angry with him. Perhaps if they were to discuss everything that the mother is able to share in compared to the father and how the mother will be second only to the couple on her wedding day, while the 'big' moment for him would be to escort her, she might understand his feelings.
Also, if she knew that parents are no longer financially responsible for their children's weddings these days, perhaps she would be a bit more giving on this part of the planning.
Did your step daughter elaborate as to why she became so furious? If not, I would suggest that her Dad ask her why--openly and gently. That would be the first step.
Many of my brides of all backgrounds are choosing to walk down the aisle with both their parents for various reasons. I think it would help to know why it is so important to her in the first place, and why she became so furious when hearing how her Dad feels.
So much conflict is often resolved through open communication---some soulful listen and talk. The key is to listen, really listen. Then speak honestly from the heart, without offense or defense.
Bride Escort
My step daughter and my husband have a wonderful relationship. We are paying for 100% of the wedding which we are thrilled to do. He has always dreamed of the day he would walk his daughter down the aisle. She has just told him that she would like both her parents to walk her down the aisle. He is crushed. The mother is fully involved in all aspects of the wedding and despite the fact that we are paying for the wedding, we've really allowed them full say over the details (as it should be). My husband just feels this was his one big role - reserved just for him. I suggested that he just tell his daughter how he feels - which he did - and now she's furious. What are your thoughts? 
