My wedding is exactly 8 months away. I have a total of 8 bridesmaids and 2 junior bridesmaids. One of my bestfriends is serving as my matron of honor, while my sister and other bestfriend are serving as co-maids of honor. My father and stepmother just got married, but have been together for several years, (before my fiance and I got together). I'm not very close to my stepsister, but to please my father and stepmother I placed my stepsister behind my last honor attendant.
I came home to find out that my fiance's sister was very upset that I put my stepsister before her. My mother-in-law actually sent my fiance a text message to tell me to put her in front of my stepsister. He doesn't care either way, because this whole planning process has been a drama filled mess from the beginning. Either my father is upset or his mother is upset about something.
How should I proceed? I am closer to my sister-in-law, but because we are now a blended family (my mother is deceased), I thought it would be a showing of 'good faith' to put my stepsister after my sister and honor attendants. What is the general rule of thumb?
Please advise.
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edited by TWQadmin on Mar 9, 2008, 7:26 PM)
I'm not certain why the order of lineup needs to be determined 8 months in advance in this case - unless the dresses are alternating colors. Usually, outside of the "honor attendant" positions, people just line their attendants up by height, or in a manner that is visually appealing in photographs. There's no reason (other than the alternating dress style/color one) to discuss with them where they will stand this early.
When you do give them the final lineup, you could just tell them that you've balance the group for the best photographic presentation. By telling them that you'e chosen a spot because you're closer to one than another, you're automatically setting out to hurt someone's feeling.
Bridesmaid Lineup Etiquette
