My husband & I have been married for 5 years. We were married on Valentines Day 2001 civily. After 5 + years of working on my annullment, his annullment and then I had to also become Catholic (He was already Catholic) all of the hard work and miles of paperwork are done and we can finally have our marriage blessed in our Catholic Church here in Minnesota. (now that you have the history...here are our questions)
1. Is it perfectly acceptable for me to wear a traditional white wedding dress? I did not have the pleasure of wearing one when we first got married and I really want to now!
2. The Deacon of our church has asked if we want a full communion service or not? What do most couples do?
3. We really are not going to have a lot of people at the ceremony, so how elaborate can we get?
4. Is it okay to have a photographer take pictures?
5. What about after the ceremony... what is the proper ettiquette for a "reception" "dinner party" etc...?
6. Lastly, are there other great ideas that some of you have done to make this extra special (since we are already legally married)?
We look forward to all of your great ideas :) Michael & Pet
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Oct 22, 2006, 11:20 AM
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Re: [mnpsasso] Catholic ceremony - Blessing of marriage
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Dear Michael and Pet -
Can you please try to keep the questions to one (or two of the same closely related subject) since we have experts in varying fields who will need to answer?
Please post number 2 as a separate post. Thanks!
Our etiquette experts and planners can address what's left. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
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Oct 23, 2006, 10:59 AM
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Dear Michael & Pet,
This would be just like a vow renewal or reaffirmation of your vows. It isn't supposed to appear as a wedding, but can be very special. Please read more about vow renewal etiquetteand our many posts concerning this issue.
A wedding dress wouldn't be proper, but you can wear a very nice dress that is in the same formality as your event.
I can't answer the service question, but we are supposed to keep this simple.
A photographer is fine.
A party is fine as well and is supposed to be like an anniversary party.
Discuss with your priest if you can have special vows that indicate your continued love and anything else you would like to say. You may be able to include some sort of unity candle or reading.
The party can be very special since it isn't a wedding reception. You can create unique dances or toasts that honor those married for some time.
Catholic ceremony - Blessing of marriage
