I am in my sisters wedding coming up. Within the last month (planning the wedding for over a year) she has decided that all the bridesmaids and groomsman will be dancing out of the church at the end of the ceremony. I am not one to dance at all let alone in front of 200 people. I was excited about this wedding until I heard we have to do this. I am very nervous and very anxious. Should I be expected to just do this and embarrass myself in front of all these people not to mention the anxiety I will have leading up to the "big day"? Should she take our(my) concerns into account or should I just deal with this? Please help...I am already sick to my stomach over this, especially since the wedding is right around the corner.
Yes, I've seen this growing popularity of dancing down the aisle.
If you're uncomfortable about doing this, and since it wasn't something you signed up for, have a nice talk with your sister and let her know how you feel. If she's not cooperating and considering your feelings, then you might have to tell her that you'll have to beg out.
All bridal couples should consider their bridal party's feelings before attempting to add unexpected costs or elements to their wedding.
I think there might be many who feel as you do. I know I'd be one fo them. I guess it's a sign of celebration, but to me, the ceremony should be more reverent, especiall when done in a church - saving the celebration and dancing for the reception. I supposeit's up to the bride and groom (and their church) to decide. But you can certainly decide to opt out if you feeel strongly.
Note that many brides are asking their bridal party members to dance as a group, oerforming at the reception. I saw that on (ugh) Bridezillas on TV. What a train wreck! Most people aren't expecting that responsibility and, on that show, a lot of them didnlt want to perform. But, they acquiesced to the bridezilla to avoid her wrath. Hey, if that's the sort of relationship she wants to have with these people she chose to be a aprt of one of the most special days of her life, whatever!
Sorry for the rant. Hope your sister is willing to work with you in this. Let us know how it works out. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
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Dancing down the aisle
