My daughter is getting married soon & she had told me at one point that when I am escorted in by the usher, she wanted my husband (not her father-we are divorced and remarried to others) to walk down next to me. So we would be 3 abreast walking in: usher, me, my husband. This sounds strange to me. I told her that normally MOB/MOG would be escorted in by the usher & any husband or significant other would walk behind them, which is also how the female regular guests are escorted in. It seems that walking in 3 abreast would look/be crowded and make us, esp. my husband, look stupid, like we don't know the proper procedure. I should mention that my son is an usher. What say you?
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Apr 28, 2006, 7:20 AM
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Have your son escort you to your seat, with your husband following slightly behind, the two of you. Rhonda Allen, Bridal Consultant New Beginnings Weddings
cumulus
Apr 28, 2006, 9:39 AM
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Yes, I agree, that is how it is done. What do I say at the rehearsal to my daughter if she is still wanting the 3-abreast style? When I told her previously how it should be done (the way you just said) she said something to the effect of "this is my wedding & I can have things the way I want". When I replied that this is also the way that regular female guests are escorted to their seats, she didn't really say anything. I'm hoping she'll forget about this. But what do I say or do if, at the rehearsal, she still tries to get us to do it her way, ie, 3-abreast? Do I just humor her & say OK & then privately tell my husband later to just walk behind my son & me? At the wedding she may not even see us walking down the aisle & at that point that would probably be the last thing on her mind then, anyway. She seems to be really sensitive to me trying to tell her anything, so I'm not planning to bring it up unless she says something about it. I'm also wondering if she might be asking the groom's father/stepmother (MOG is deceased) to walk down in the same 3-abreast style with the usher. What do we say/do if she requests this at the rehearsal?
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Yes, just tell your husband to go ahead and walk behind. I agree that she probably will be so caught up in the moment that she probably won't notice. If she does, well, there won't be anything to be done about it.
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Does this sound right for escorting MOB?
