I need help, soon. The wedding is in less than 2 weeks and everyone is backing out. The only groomsman did not get fitted for his tux (he is 10 years old). His mom is my sister in law and she says they just did not get around to it. My MOH says things are too hectic and we haven't spoken in a while. MOG might not fly here because she is upset with a decision we made about dinner. My mother's fiance might have to work that day so I will not have a guarrenteed escort down the aisle. My mother is unable to help with what everyone is leaving to do. What is going on? The programs are already made. Everything has been planned and paid for, all we would have to do is get married. We are good christian people and this is our first marriage. Should I be a bridezilla? What do I do? Should we elope to relieve everyone?
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Jun 3, 2007, 5:31 PM
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Re: [cluuless] Everyone backing out of wedding.
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Dear Cluuless,
It is difficult to know what is going on, as relationships can be complex. Not that I would suggest becoming a bridezilla, but it may be best to contact everyone and tell them what you have said here. They promised to be a part of your wedding, so it is only polite behavior if they kept their promises.
Re: [cluuless] Everyone backing out of wedding.
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Good advice from Rebecca. I'd like to also suggest that, other than the programs, you can have a wonderful wedding without any of these people providing their help. I would give them each a deadline by which they will have to have their fittings or whatever other duties they may have agreed to do. Then, if they don;t come through, call them and let them know that you'll have to omit them from the wedding. This can be done very gently and diplomatically, but with enough force that they understand that you're serious. I hope they all comply. But again, if they don't, just make sure that you have 2 witnesses on the day of the wedding to sign the paperwork and you'll be married. Take control of planning all of the other details you have left and ask the groom to pick up the slack.
Good Luck, Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
cluuless
Jun 3, 2007, 10:42 PM
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Re: [Et.byRebecca] Everyone backing out of wedding.
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Thank you for your response! I will try harder to be more assertive without coming accross harsh.
cluuless
Jun 3, 2007, 10:47 PM
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Thank you so much for your advice! I will just make a plan B now in case they do all drop out.
TWQadmin
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Jun 3, 2007, 11:44 PM
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Keep your eye on the prize.
Let us know how it all turns out. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
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