I desperately need advice as to the involvenment from my fathers in my wedding!! Yes I did say fathers. My mom has had three partners in my life.
my biological father who left when I was two, and we have never been close. My step father who was around for about 11 years, and left on bad circumstances. and my moms current boyfriend whom I care about, but he is still quite new to the family.
The problem is that my biological dad feels he should walk my down the aisle and have my father daughter dance. I dont agree, as he was never in my life. but I also feel that if I was to choose one of the other men, I may offend the others. is there differant ways to involve my stepfather and moms boyfriend? is it uncommon to walk down the aisle alone? BRIDE
Who is paying for your wedding? To what degree are these three men contributing to your life right now? And to what degree to you want them to be a part of your life in the future?
If your biological father feels strongly about his role in your life, find out more about that. See if you can learn more about what caused him to not be a presence in your life when you were growing up, and also seek to understand in what ways he did seek to support you and contribute to your life that you may not know about.
Is there a way that you can creatively honor these men for their various roles in your life? One gave you life, as well as a firm foundation of trust. The other showed up for you and was there for you in a way he didn't have to be, when you needed a father-figure. And the other is a presence for your mother in a way that warms your heart and her life. Emily Bouchard, MSSW, Life Coach, Speaker, and Trainer
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