My stepdaughter is having a big third marriage wedding ceremony. She has asked my husband, her father to give her away. Everything seemed okay, except that she wants him to walk out with her future mother-in-law, as "a blending of families." However, my husband wants to walk out with me. We have been married 12 years and are very much in love. He made a simple, and in the deepest thought of love, request that he walk me out...afterall, the ceremony is over. (Incidentally, I would also be just seating myself somewhere...?) She totally came unglued and accused him of telling her what to do for her wedding and not respecting her decisions. I am very hurt now, because I have spent all these years supporting her through all her dramatics of life, even encouraging my husband to give her financial support on several occasions. Her reasoning of the blending of families is so hypocritical to the fact that I am a blend through her father.
(This post was
edited by TWQadmin on Jun 11, 2008, 12:02 PM)
Etiquette Now
WEDDING ETIQUETTE EXPERT
Sep 13, 2007, 5:22 PM
Post #2 of 2
(651 views)
Re: [StepMom Mary] How do Step Parents fit into ceremonial exit?
[In reply to]
Dear StepMomMary,
Deep breath. Feeling calmer? Maybe not. I would be a little upset too. But, she may be wanting exactly what she says--to make a statement about blending her groom's family with hers. Unfortunately, this may be viewed as a slight by more guests than just you.
You should be seated in the third row, unless your husband is sitting in the front row. You two should be seated together. He is your escort. So, he should walk you out.
Perhaps her father could convince his daughter to consult any etiquette book or this site. If not, it may be best to just let it be. And, perhaps there could be a compromise. Perhaps your husband could escort both you and her future mother in law.
How do Step Parents fit into ceremonial exit?
