I haven't found anywhere that says how to deal 3 parents when you have two dads and your mom was your primary parent. I'm hoping you can help with my dilemma!
My Mom and stepdad are financially supporting the wedding and my dad is not. My mom raised me by herself, but I am now in my late twenties and support myself so I'm really not being "given away". My mom and has expressed that she would rather I walk down the aisle unescorted instead of having my dad give me away. I'm cool with that. But I still want to honor my dad in a special way and not make him feel completely slighted.
I would like to honor my mom, dad, and stepdad (without including escorting). I figure I can honor Mom by having her light the Unity Candle and maybe give her a rose when I enter (contemporary, formal Christian church wedding ceremony). What about my dad and stepdad? Should I have them do scripture readings or something?
Oy, this is such a headache!
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Re: How to honor Dad but not be escorted
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Can't the whole family be involved with the unity candle ceremony? Is is a ceremony to unite the two families. This way you are honoring all the family members and no one has to feel slighted. I would not have your mom as part of the ceremony without the rest of the family. That would really make your dad and step dad feel slighted.
But, dad can certainly do a reading , but he would have to agree to that, of course. Be careful how you word all of this with him since, if he's a traditional man, he may be assuming he's escorting you down the aisle. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
How to honor bride's Dad but not be escorted
