My fiance and I would like to include our two favorite aunts (one aunt is mine, the other aunt is his) in the wedding ceremony, but are not exactly sure how.
One idea I have is for his aunt to light a candle in memory of those in our families who have passed- this is an appropriate role for my fiance's aunt because his grandmother (his aunt's mom) passed away a few years ago and will be sorely missed at the wedding by his family. Unfortunately, I never got to meet her but know she was a very special and important part of his family.
As for my aunt, I thought she could light a candle in honor of the cancer survivors in our families. This is particularly approriate for my aunt because my grandmother (my aunt's mom) is currently fighting AND surviving of breast cancer. My grandmother's cancer has been a huge ordeal on her so I thought it might be nice to recognize that.
I thought both aunts could go to the alter and light the candles right before the mothers are escorted into the church to light the unity candles. I also thought that we could explan what the candles represent in the programs.
I have heard of people having memory candles in their weddings, but I have never heard of a "cancer survivor" candle. Would this be appropriate?
If not, is there some other special role I could give my aunt besides lighting a candle?
Thank you!
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edited by TWQadmin on Jun 11, 2008, 11:59 AM)
Since I am just returning to work after having a mastectomy I understand and appreciate what you're trying to accomplish. It is a wonderful gesture and the candle lighting or rose placement is a sweet addition to your wedding ceremony. As long as there isn't a long speech that is made and the candle lighting is brief (mentioning the purpose in the program is a wonderful way to inform your guests about what's happening) it will be nice. Let's not overwhelm the guests with too many tears.
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I think it is a loving gesture. There is nothing wrong with personalizing your ceremony to reflect what is in your hearts, even if it is not commonly done.
How's this for your program:
Lighting of the Memory Candle for those who have passed, by (place name of Aunt)
Lighting of the Candle of Courage, for those in our family who valiantly battle cancer with courage and faith, by (place name of Aunt)
Including Favorite Aunts in the Wedding Ceremony
