Including bride's father's wife in the wedding ceremony
Both of our parents are divorced. My mom is single and my father remarried when I was 18. I don't consider his wife a "step mother" in such that I was out of their home and she never raised me. I am being walked down the aisle by both of my parents (as my mother is not willing to give my father that honor alone). I am trying to find a way to honor my father's wife. I thought she could walk down the aisle, but my mother is adamantly against it. My father has specifically asked me to include her in some way. How can I include her enough to appease without hurting or offending my mother? Any advise is appreciated!
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Fr. Anderson
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I am asked this question all the time. How to honor a specific person can be achieved by giving them a reading to read during the ceremony. This can be from scripture or something nice that you pick out. Having her name in the program next to the title of the reading will highlight her role in your wedding. Father Anderson, Episcopal Priest http://www.fatheranderson.com
Weddings by Shayna
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I agree. A reading, either from scripture, or maybe something about blending families, would be appropriate. If your mother is carrying a nosegay instead of a corsage (which is growing in popularity), perhaps your father's wife could wear a corsage to signify special consideration, but still be distinct and different. Shayna Walker, Williamsburg Wedding Design http://www.williamsburgweddingdesign.com
Etiquette Now
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All this is true and polite. But, your mother's feelings are very important here too. Typically, unless the step mother is viewed as a 'mother', she is viewed as your father's escort. She isn't usually seated as special or given a special role. So, your mother may have some issues with giving her one, especially if she is to have one that is actually part of the ceremony.
Hopefully, your mother won't have any issue with honoring her in some small way. The corsage is a very good idea and isn't overt. She could also be mentioned by name during the reception when your father is introduced.
Including bride's father's wife in the wedding ceremony
