First, the background. My mother & father divorced when I was 2 yrs old. My father married almost immediately have been together ever since. My mom has been remarried numerous times since then but her latest husband has been in my life since I was 13/14 yrs old. My bio father was in my life (mainly on weekend visitations) before I moved to another state at the age of 13. Once I moved, I heard nothing from him. We have had rocky one ever since. In the past few years, we have grown closer, but still like I would like. My step father is a very quiet person and I don't talk to him very much unless I am visiting my mom.
When my fiance and I first decided on a wedding date, I was so excited that I called my mom. During that conversation I told her that I would like her to walk me down the aisle since she was my mother and father my whole life. She was pleased but in the same breath said "why don't you have me & your brother walk you"? I have a total of 4 brothers but only one is full (we have the same mother & father). I am my bio father's first born & only daughter. I am also my step father's only daughter. Every time I speak to my mom about the wedding, she pushes my brother on me.
Finally I decided to include everyone and have my real brother walk my mother down prior to my bridesmaids entering and then have both of my fathers walk me in jointly. Since one was part of my childhood and the other a part of my young adulthood. I had mentioned this to my mom at one point and she seemed just fine with it. I recently contacted my bio father and asked him to jointly walk me with my step father and he said he would be honored. I told my mother this and she is now telling me that she doesn't "feel right" being part of the "parade" walking down the aisle. But in the same breath she says she thinks that the birth parents (her & my bio father) should be the ones walking me. But then she also says that she thinks her & my brother should do it because the 3 of us were the REAL family.
We are already having a unity candle ceremony where her and the groom's mother will take part. But I have a feeling that she wants the spotlight on her. Even though she has been married 6 times, she just can't let me have ONE the way I want it. It's so frustrating and I don't want anyone to be hurt but what do I do and how do I go about clearing this all up??? I thought that by her entering and walking with my brother, she would get her spotlight since she is the FIRST one. I don't think she gets that though. HELP!
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