We need help. Our daughter wants to get legally married within the month so she can have medical benefits, however still wants a formal wedding eight months from now. We are okay with it, but how do we communicate it to family and friends? Is it okay to still have a formal wedding with bridemaids, etc?
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Jul 28, 2007, 4:41 PM
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How can your daughter be married twice? Once married, she's married and cannot be married again. If she wants to get married civilly, and then have a reception in 8 months, fine. She could also have a blessing of the marriage in church, but this is not a wedding. If she makes the decision to marry now, for whatever reason, she will have to give up the formal wedding with the white dress and the bridesmaids.
If she needs to be married now for the benefits then she should choose to have the wedding she wants now. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
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Jul 28, 2007, 5:03 PM
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Thanks for the input. Do you know what a blessing would be like? Would it be appropriate for her to have attendants as witnesses?
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Jul 29, 2007, 9:05 AM
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No witnesses are needed for a blessing of the marriage since it is not a legal service. Again, this should not appear to be a wedding since the couple is already married in the eyes of the guests and the law. Speak to your clergy person about how the service is performed in your church. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
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Jul 29, 2007, 7:02 PM
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I completely agree. And, we have numerous posts concerning this same issue. Please read more about vow renewal etiquette. Please ask your daughter to as well. If guests are invited, it is very important for this to appear appropriate for them.
Please also remind her that the blessing of her marriage/vow renewal is not a gift giving event. This may be important to her. Rebecca Black, Etiquette Now
Legal and religious ceremony months apart?
