What do I do since she was my best friend and the best person? She was murdered on the 25th of feb. I don't want to replace her, so I was thinking of like the missing man formation, but instead just leaving a space for her and have the Best Man walk by himself. Does that sound ok??? My family is afraid that if we do something to remember her that it will take away from our special day. I think that it is only appropriate, not sure what to do. can't use her mom 'cause both of her parent's are dead. Looking for some guidance, do I have someone else step up and take over the roll as maid of honor?????? Seems no one knows the answer..
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RevSusanna
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Mar 8, 2005, 11:23 AM
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How tragic. The missing woman formation is appropriate... and poignant. You could also include a brief mention about it in your program as well, and/or have a bouquet of flowers at the reception in her honor---or a single flower at the altar in her honor. This must be overwhelming for you. My heart and prayers go out to you...and her family. May she be at peace. I will say a prayer for her.
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I am so sorry to hear about your friend; very sad.
The following are suggestions for remembering a loved one during the wedding ceremony:
Provide a second table at the altar or near the front of the church. On it, place a Memorial Candle in tribute to your loved ones.
Ask your officiant to include them at the beginning of the candle-lighting ceremony. For example, "Before (Bride) and (Groom) light a candle to symbolize their union, they will light a candle in honor of (Loved One), whom they dearly miss, and who they know is present with them here today."
Then, light the Memorial Candle, ask the officiant to say a prayer, then move to the altar to light your Unity Candle.
Light Taper Candles In Memorium
It is traditional to have one or both parents light the individual tapers for their children before the bride and groom light the Unity Candle. If one or both of your parents is deceased, the bride or groom can light the taper and ask the officiant to acknowledge the act before the Unity Candle is lit.
You may also think of using candelabras, and having sisters, brothers, or other family members light a candle for each relative that is no longer with you.
Memorial Bud Vase: Share a commemorative moment at your wedding ceremony by placing a flower in this memorial bud vase, printed with sentimental words honoring a loved one
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Lizee3705
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Mar 14, 2005, 1:55 PM
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Have you considered asking your best friends Mother to stand in for her? You could also have a separate table with her photo and a single white rose and a candle that you would both light. Just a thought. So sorry for your loss. It is truly tragic. Mother of the Groom
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Please don't ask the greiving mother to stand in for her recently murdered daughter. This would be way too painful for her and she may not be in any position emotionally to say no. This would not be appropriate. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
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