I have read some of the most recent posts on having a memorial for a family member at the wedding.
I lost my grandmother four months ago. By the time the wedding rolls around, it will have only been six months.
Every time that I think about her being gone and not being able to be at the wedding, I cry. I do not want to cry at my wedding.
I have one personal memorial that I have planned. I will be wearing my great-grandmother's necklace and my recently deceased grandmother's earrings. This will keep both of them close to me during the entire day.
I want to have some type of memorial for her / them at the ceremony so that everyone will see/know that they are being memorialized.
My brother was married less than a year ago and had a candle in the stained glass window that bears my grandfather's name as a memorial.
In past posts I see where everyone mentions having the pastor read their names of have a moment of silence. There is no way that I can handle that.
My 9 yr old cousin is a junior bridesmaid in my wedding. She was also very close to our grandmother. I don't know if there is a way to include her as well.
Since Grandmama's death has been so recent, I don't know what to do.
What suggestions do you all have?
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RevSusanna
Interfaith Wedding Minister
Mar 24, 2006, 10:48 PM
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Re: [May06Bride] Memorial for grandmother at the wedding ceremony
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Grandmothers, especially when they are so wonderful, occupy a special place in our hearts and lives that is irreplaceable.
In your grandmother's honor and just before the procession begins, your 9 yr old cousin and junior bridesmaid can light a candle in that stained glass window that bears your grandfather's name. She then resumes her place in the line-up and the procession begins. This simple ceremony is elegant, involves your cousin, and those who know will make the connection.
Within your program or on the back of the program, you can also print a brief inscription, something from scripture or poetry, followed by the words "Dedicated to the memory of ____."
It is my belief that your grandmother will be there, rejoicing with you, closer than ever in spirit.
Memorial for grandmother at the wedding ceremony
