I really would like to have my 2 dogs as my ring bearers. I have always had my heart set on it since I've had them for over 10 years and dreamed of how my wedding would be! They are a huge part of my life and my fiance' has no problem with including them into our wedding. However, my sister and mother are giving me grief about it. Our wedding ceremony location is only 5 minutes from our home, and they allow pets on the grounds. Plus, someone could easily and quickly drop them off between the ceremony and reception (there is about 30-45 minutes in between). My sister adamantly refuses to do anything for me (and yet she has declared herself my matron of honor). My mother, on the other hand, is paying for our wedding so she feels she has a say so about what we can and can't do. They are causing me stress and just will not relent on my decision. What can I do?
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Before making this decision please consider that dogs can/do have "accidents"; especially when stressed! Plus, their behavior can be even more unreliable than a toddler. If you can deal with dogs peeing on your Aunt Sally's leg, the pew bows or even running off halfway down the aisle to chase a squirrel then have a calm, rational discussion with your mom at a time when you are both NOT heated.
Explain your desires to her and really talk this out, all of you; bride, groom, parent, etc. It IS your day but I am sure your mom is, as all moms do, looking to make sure your day is the perfect wedding day she's dreamed of for you. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
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Dec 22, 2004, 9:39 PM
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I have considered all of the things you mentioned.
My brother, who is walking me down the aisle, has volunteered to walk both my dogs down the aisle on leashes. I wouldn't want them running off with our rings!
I have decided to not seat people in the first seats closest to the aisle in case my dogs decide to mark their territory while going down the aisle, and mark someone's leg or purse.
My mom's concern is how it will look in front of her friends, not about anything else. I had wanted my brother to be my "Man of Honor" but my mom and sister made a huge fuss about it and bad it would look..blah, blah,blah. I got tired of hearing about it, so I ended up choosing my sister (who refuses to do any of the obligations or duties of Matron of Honor). I have back down on alot of things that I wanted in my wedding, and this is the last thing and only thing I will not budge on. If there is another or different idea that can be done that includes my pets, I will consider it.
Thank you for your advice. I will try and talk to my mother again.
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Dear My dogs,
I understand your frustration. I love dogs too and love the idea of looking outside the box when it comes to wedding traditions. It is unfortunate that your mother and sister are giving you grief about so many components of your wedding.
Although I love dogs and actually think that your idea is sweet to include them, plus you have thought of solutions to most of the problems the Wedding Queen has posed, (long sentence), there are people who may fear dogs and may not appreciate the inclusion of them. I do not think your idea is silly, not at all. It just may be frightening for those who have had unfortunate experiences with dogs in the past. ...just something to consider.
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