I have been asked to be the officiant at a friend's wedding. I have never done anything like this. It's such a huge honor, and I want it to be very special. The couple is non-religious and they want a very simple wedding. Any ideas will be greatly appreciated.
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Deacon Bob
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Jun 14, 2005, 9:20 PM
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Officiating a wedding is a huge honor and congratulations. What State is the wedding in? You might want to make sure that you are legally allowed to officiate. If the wedding is in Maryland -- you are probably ok. Other states have much stricter laws. If you look up wedding officiant sites on the internet you will find a lot of ceremonies that will give you ideas. The Knot also puts out an excellent book on Wedding Vows and Traditions, which has a lot of ideas and many readings that can be used at a wedding. Best of luck to you.
Wedding Ceremony Book, examples of, Wedding Readings, Vows, Ring Vows.
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RevSusanna
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Oh, it will be a wonderful experience for you! Assuming that you are in a state that you can legally do so (i.e. in New York it is not permitted), then I would recommend research to craft the ceremony. In my book there are so many ways to personalize a non-religious ceremony so that it is incredibly meaningful. In fact, many officiants and couples use my book to create their ceremony. After you have done your research, give the couple a list of suggestions and have them choose their readings, vows, rituals and blessings. You can have them write a paragraph as to how they feel about each other (not showing each other beforehand) and then read it at the ceremony---as part of your words to them. Are they close to their families? Be sure then to include ways to honor family members. Ask them if they plan to write their vows? If not, there are so many versions of vows...from the traditional, the emotional to the alternative. If they will be writing their own vows, they can be followed by some form of a traditional vow.
Officiating a Friend's Wedding
