Someone other than father walking the bride down the aisle
My husband and I are divorced and my daughter is getting married and she has opted not to have her father or his family at her wedding. I suggested to her that having myself and her only brother walk her down the aisle would be nice as I've seen this done before. She thought that was a wonderful idea. Her husband to be is totally against this saying it would look foolish and totally inappropriate. I think he is being very selfish! Am I crazy? I have tried to speak to him and he has basically told me my suggestions weren't welcome as it has been decided by him. I am paying part of this wedding do I not have a say?
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I think it's time for the bride and groom to talk. He can't refuse the bride's reasonable wishes and hope for a happy marriage. It is totally appropriate for you and her brother to walk her down the aisle. Is the groom's objection that he thinks it would be wierd to see two people walking her down the aisle. Perhaps a comprise with you alone walking your daughter down would make him happy. Nancy Tucker President of Weddings Beautiful US http://www.weddingsbeautiful.com
Maybe the groom knows something we all don't. Why is the father being excluded? Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
Jill
Psychotherapist: Second Weddings & Stepfamilies
Do you think it is the idea of two people walking with his bride which the groom-to-be doesnt like? In any event, it is something the bride and groom must discuss right away. Stand back a bit whilst they do this. You have made your position clear. Jill Curtis Psychotherapist, Author How to Get Married ... Again (A Guide to Second Weddings) London, UK http://www.familyonwards.com
The father is being excluded due to circumstances which were inappropriate as she was a young mother and he did things to both her and her now husband to be. Issues also that go back before that - her dad is both an alcoholic and a drug addict.
Her husband to be thinks her brother walking her down the aisle with me would look stupid and inappropriate.
I see, so inviiting this man to do the job is out of the question.
If your daughter is in agreement with her groom then let them work out those details and be redy to perform the task if asked. If not, then be ready to accept your daughter's wishes for her wedding day.
If she does not agree with her groom encourage her to calmly discuss the reasons why he feels this way. Maybe they could come to this site together and see how many different ways bride's are being escourted these days. Communication between the two of them is key now but you should speak only to your daughter, unless invited to speak with them both. You will have to spend many holidays, birthdays and other family events with this man and you don't want to start off on the wrong foot. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
Someone other than father walking the bride down the aisle
My husband and I are divorced and my daughter is getting married and she has opted not to have her father or his family at her wedding. I suggested to her that having myself and her only brother walk her down the aisle would be nice as I've seen this done before. She thought that was a wonderful idea. Her husband to be is totally against this saying it would look foolish and totally inappropriate. I think he is being very selfish! Am I crazy? I have tried to speak to him and he has basically told me my suggestions weren't welcome as it has been decided by him. I am paying part of this wedding do I not have a say? 
