My finance's parents are both deceased, so my question is how would be the best way to do the unity candle. I would really like for my mom to light a candle but how would his side be done?
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RevSusanna
Interfaith Wedding Minister
Sep 28, 2006, 1:19 PM
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Re: [tammylynn555] Unity Candle when parents are deceased
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There are many ways.
You can have a person of honor represent his mother, say a beloved aunt. The officiant can make mention that this person's hand represents the hand of his mother. The officiant can then acknowledge that though his mother could not be there physically, she is there in spirit sharing in her son's joy, and that she is sorely missed.
Or your minister can light the candle him/herself, with a similiar reference, then the officiant can ask your future husband to place a single rose (or other chosen bloom) in a vase by the candle in his mother's honor and memory.
Once, one groom, whose parents had passed away, left a sealed note on the altar by the vase addressed to his deceased parents. It felt right for him to do that.
Re: [tammylynn555] Unity Candle when parents are deceased
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I can't really say it any better than Rev. Susanna! And what I would add as a footnote is that while the Unity Candle is a beautiful ritual, there are other rituals that you may want to discuss with your Officiant/Minister that may be more meaningful or well placed - both to celebrate your relationship and the legacy of those who are no longer with you physically. Annemarie Juhlian, Wedding Officiant & Minister
Unity Candle when parents are deceased
