I have been putting a lot of thought into who I would like to walk me down the aisle. I do not particularly feel that it is my father's place, but am willing to 'suck it up' so as not hurt his feelings. If I do this though, I really want to honor my mother as well. I am not fond of the whole being given away idea since I have been paying my own bills since I moved away from home. I figured the best solution would be to walk halfway down the aisle with BOTH parents and then walk the remaining myself. I was wondering though, how my parents will get to their seats and if this solution is proper?
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Re: Walking Halfway Down the Aisle with Both Parents
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Dear Paisley,
You could have them both walk you completely down the aisle. No one "gives" anyone away any more. They would be escorting you. But, then again, why have any escorts? You don't really need any. It is your choice.
If you had them both walk you down only half of the aisle, they would have to follow you up the aisle to their seats or walk back down the aisle and around the sides to their seats, which means that they will be coming around the front just as you are beginning the ceremony. So, that might not be a good choice.
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That is a good point. I think that it would be awkward to have them following behind or scrambling to their seats down the side aisles. Would it be inappropriate to walk the first half alone and have my parents "pick me up" at around halfway? A sort of she enters this marriage herself but with the support of her family symbolism. Or should I just sit down, think it over, and figure out whether I would rather walk it alone or have them both walk me the whole way? Thanks for you advice!
RevSusanna
Interfaith Wedding Minister
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Another suggestion: You may walk alone and ask your celebrant to honor and thank your parents within the ceremony. If you wish, write something up yourselves for your officiant to read. You may even present them with flowers as well (a symbol of beauty and gratitude).
This would honor your wish to walk alone, and still honor your parents.
Walking Halfway Down the Aisle with Both Parents
