Is it rude to not want your distant family to the wedding? I have many family members and old family friends who I don't even know and others that I have not talked to in years yet my parents want to invite them to the wedding because they want to be fair to everyone. I really don't want a church full of strangers. What do I do?
Etiquette Now
WEDDING ETIQUETTE EXPERT
Jan 11, 2005, 1:22 PM
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Re: [cmevans] Wedding Family Nightmare
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Dear Wedding Family Nightmare,
Yours is a common problem--whom to invite. You only have to invite those with whom you have a connection and can afford to entertain. It is not rude not to invite distant family. Just send a wedding announcement after you are married so they know.
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Jill
Psychotherapist: Second Weddings & Stepfamilies
Jan 11, 2005, 1:25 PM
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Perhaps more talking with your parents? Could it be they want to invite some distant friends and family in order to keep in touch? Jill Curtis Psychotherapist, Author How to Get Married ... Again (A Guide to Second Weddings) London, UK http://www.familyonwards.com
I think the problem is....my family owns a business and they feel that if they don't invite the people that deal with the business/friends of the family that there will be hard feelings. I feel that it is my wedding and I don't want a bunch of strangers there to celebrate my special day. My parents also feel that they can't cut back on the list and they suggest we go on a cruise and get married. I want a small church wedding and I don't know what to do!?! Do you think it would be wrong to invite the people I want to invite and then after the wedding to send announcements out to the rest of the people?
Jill
Psychotherapist: Second Weddings & Stepfamilies
So.. can a third way be found.. Would a compromise be a small church wedding for you, and perhaps next day a large party which would include your parents friends and family. It would mean you would have the private wedding you want, but your parents could include others for the celebration. Just a thought....... Jill Curtis Psychotherapist, Author How to Get Married ... Again (A Guide to Second Weddings) London, UK http://www.familyonwards.com
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