I am getting Married in July 2008, and I am having a difficult time determining the appropriate family member to give me away at the ceremony.
My Parents are divorced, and both re-married. I have a closer relationship with my Step Father than I do with my biological Father, but I do love them both very much and plan to invite both to attend our wedding. I don't want to have them walk me down the aisle together, or take turns as I think that would make both of them uncomfortable, and I know I would feel odd about it. To my knowledge, my Fathers have not been in the same place at the same time in the 13 years my Mom & Step Dad were together.
My plan when I got engaged in 2004 was to have my Mother give me away as I did not want either Father to feel slighted. Unfortunately, my Mother passed away in 2005, and now I am left wondering who would be the next most appropriate choice.
Ours will be an outdoor ceremony at a Renaissance Festival, so not terribly formal, but I would like to retain some of the traditional ceremony components, while allowing for creativity given the uniqueness of the setting.
Thank You for your help.
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No one is really "given away" anymore, but, brides are typically escorted. In your case, f you cannot decide, walk alone.
Asking just one or the other might cause hurt feelings. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
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Thank You for the suggestion.
I don't think any of us would be comfortable with them both escorting me, as I believe my wedding will be the first time they have ever been in the same place at the same time ( given that they both come). I definitely don't want to offend either of them or hurt anyone's feelings.
I was considering having either my Aunt (Mom's sister) or possibly my younger (and only biological) sister escort me given that my original solution (my Mom) is not an option.
Another option I'm considering is my Uncle (Mom's oldest brother and my Godfather)
Which would be the most appropriate solution given my situation?
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If you choose someone other than the traditional father in this role there are bound to be issues. I have to stick with my original answer and say no escort. This way, no one gets their feelings hurt and you;re not choosing one over the other. Just my opinion, though. Only you can really make this decision. It is very personal. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
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Aug 7, 2007, 9:47 PM
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Again, Thank You so much!
I appreciate your input
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I completely agree. That is a wise choice. Rebecca Black, Etiquette Now
Who Should Give Me Away?
