I need help. I am getting married in 1 month and don't know what to do. I keep putting this off, and I need some answers. When I was three, my parents got divorced. My mom got custody because my dad didn't want custody. When I was twelve, my mom screwed up, and I went up for adoption. My grandparents on my dad's side adopted me, and have been raising me ever since. Since I was fifteen, I have called my adopted father, "dad". I am now 22 and, for the last three-four years, my biological dad has been in the picture. He has many boys, but I am his only daughter. I am getting married next month, and I am so confused as to who should walk me down the aisle; my dad who raised me when no one else wanted me or my biological dad? I need some serious help here because I don't want hurt feelings.
Note: Before my real dad and I had a relationship, I threatened him and told him if he wasn't going to be a father then he wouldn't be the FOB.
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Re: [Mandigirl] Who should walk bride down isle?
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Since this is a holiday weekend and you need help quickly I would advise you to use the search and read through past posts. If you are having a religious wedding, speak to your officiant and ask for counseling. If not, you could probably benefit from some family therapy anyway.
There is no hard and fast rule for who should walk you down the aisle.
Good Luck.
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Re: [Mandigirl] Who should walk bride down aisle?
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My heart goes out to you. There are many options. You may walk with both your Dads, one on either side. If your aisle is long, your biological Dad may take you to the end of the rows of chairs. Then your adopted Dad may walk you the rest of the way. This works and is symbolic of their participation in your life.
And here is another option still, walk alone. Then have your celebrant say this once you reach your fiance`: "We begin the ceremony with a gift of beauty and gratitude to the people who have given the bride and groom life and to those who have raised them and cared for them." Have a single bloom waiting upon your altar for each of your parents and adopted parents. If you wish, attach a personal note to each.
Given your history, it is YOUR decision to make. Search your heart. It will tell you what to do.
Who should walk bride down aisle?
