My daughter ( bride) will married soon. She and her brother are extremely close and he was to be in the wedding party.He is in the National guard and was called up . He is gone now and most will already be in Iraq by the wedding date.
She would like to still remember her brother's significance in the ceremony some way.
Would it be proper to include a single yellow rose admist her ivory roses in the bridal bouquet along with a brief description of what this symbolizes on the back of the program , or should we just "keep him in our thoughts privately?"
I think that approach would be both very honorable and tasteful. Go for it. Be sure that you don't push it to the point that it becomes the theme of the wedding. Nancy Tucker President of Weddings Beautiful US http://www.weddingsbeautiful.com
Absolutely. The greatest etiquette comes from the heart. Everyone will be moved. One more suggestion: Be sure to video the wedding day, and when you do, be sure to include an excerpt of the entire family telling him how much you all love him and miss him. (As a minister, I have even included a brief "hello", "our thoughts are with you" and a salute within the ceremony. However, this is not something every officiant is comfortable doing.)
absent brother of bride
