My family (the bride's family) is paying for the wedding ceremony. Isn't choosing the officiant up to us. I was always told it was. My fiance' is giving me a hard time about the officiant that I want to use. I need to know whose decision it is. Please help!!
Deacon Bob
INDEPENDANT CATHOLIC DEACON
Sep 12, 2005, 12:25 PM
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Traditionally, the wedding took place at the bride's church. However, in recent times that has not been the case. I find it best if the couple found an officiant that they are both comfortable with. I think, if you have not done so already, it is best for the both of you to sit down and discuss what you want in the ceremony and an officiant. This could be a good time to work on compromise, which is a skill that is necessary in marriage. Also, remember to pray about it. That might give you some peace and help you reach a decision that will please both of you. After all you do not want the beginning of your life together to have conflict associated with it. God Bless, Bob Deacon Bob Tousey
annemjuhlian
CELEBRANT & OFFICIANT
Sep 12, 2005, 1:29 PM
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I am a non-denominational Wedding Officiant & Minister in Seattle. I encourage you and your fiancee to select your officiant TOGETHER. This is an important decision and one that is precious to your day. There is no "right or wrong" here and in today's world, this decision isn't dependent on who is paying the bills. Interview several Officiants and Ministers and make your selection together - this is a heartfelt choice and if you can find an Officiant/Minister that you really enjoy/like, all the better! Annemarie Juhlian, Wedding Officiant & Minister
RevSusanna
Interfaith Wedding Minister
Sep 12, 2005, 6:33 PM
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I can only speak from personal experience. The couples I serve seek me out--together. You both need to be comfortable. Afterall, it is a momentous, life changing day for the groom too! One option: He (or both of you) can pay for the officiant's fee.
Marriage is a two way street on all matters of importance.
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