My family is Catholic, his is Baptist, and we're both Pegan. We're having a magistrate marry us (if any of the 5 we've constantly left messages for ever call us back). We have our own vows written, but other than our vows, the rings, and the kiss, what else can we do during the ceremony? I'm really afraid we're going to have a 10 minute ceremony and I'd like it to at least last 20 minutes to a half hour. We've considered a unity candle, but they're all so ugly, and neither of us are really into the symbolism of the unity candle or unity sand.
We're more like best friends rather than drop dead romantically, sexually in love with each other to the point where we need to be one person. We're more like two people who are just there for each other, we're companions, where one goes, the other follows. Loving my fiance is like having a puppy, and he feels the same. We'd really like to convey our kind of relationship during the ceremony, but we're clueless on how to do that. It's kind of a weird situation, bu any suggestions would be awesome :)
RevSusanna
Interfaith Wedding Minister
Nov 10, 2005, 3:18 PM
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Oh, there are so many wonderful ways you can make your ceremony longer, not for the sake of length, but for the sake of creating a ceremony completely reflective of you, your relationship and beliefs---one that will really effect you and your guests long after the ceremony is over. My book, Joining Hands and Hearts, is dedicated to the personalization of wedding ceremonies. It contains all the words and rituals you will need---explained and fully scripted.
When you say you are pagan, do you mean wiccan? If so, consider doing a Celtic Handfasting or incorporating a Native American Blessing. See Universal Passages for Any Wedding, Handfasting (three versions are in my book), Candlelighting (stated in a way where you still retain your individual identities), Native American Spirituality and all the passages on Honoring and Including Family and Friends. You could incorporate the sprinkling of rose petals or release butterflies. The Wiccan-Celtic Version of sharing wine is the Quaich---which I featured under Scottish rituals. Just circle that which feels right for you and bring them to the magistrate.
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pookabee
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Nov 17, 2005, 1:13 PM
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We went out and bought your book the very same day I read your reply. It's fabulous! We got some wonderful ideas and combined them and reworded them and now we have more than half of our ceremony written up! We just need to fit the vows in there somewhere and write up an introduction and we're finished! Thank you so much! We were so worried about having a boring old traditional ceremony, or one that flew by way too quickly, and now we have something that reflects our relationship perfectly, is meaningful enough to make me cry and my fiance get more excited than ever as we proofread it, and it even includes our parents! YAY!
RevSusanna
Interfaith Wedding Minister
Nov 17, 2005, 2:50 PM
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Your reply warmed my soul, and made my day. Thank you. You are the gift.
I am so glad my book helped you in creating a ceremony that is not only meaningful, but just what you wanted.
One last piece of advice, you could include a little of "your story" in your opening words. (I often do that.) Be sure to tell your guests that you have written the ceremony yourselves. That always gets people's attention! And, of course, you can borrow any of my opening words on pages 115 and 86 featured in Joining Hands and Hearts.
May your wedding be all that you dream and beyond!
ideas for a longer ceremony?
