Hello- My Husband and I were married in the Court House in October just for insurance purposes, but nobody knows we did this! I didn't change my name yet or anything because we are getting married again this October and my question is : Are we going to get introuble if someone finds this out, the officiant is who I am speaking of ? Were just going along like this is the first time that were getting married!!! Thank you,
Confused!!
RevSusanna
Interfaith Wedding Minister
Feb 21, 2005, 7:57 PM
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You need to tell your celebrant for he or she is going to expect to sign a marriage license which they cannot do since you are already married! No one else need to know, but your officiant certainly does. Do not be afraid to be completely honest. If you are having a religious service, the cleric will most likely understand that you wish to have your marriage blessed. This is not as uncommon as you think! If you are getting married by a judge, he may be very understanding as well. If not, find another officiant.
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Dear Confused:
Seems to me that, as Reverend Susanna has said, you should be honest here...with everyone. Why wouldn't you, couldn't you, simply tell everyone you are already legally married and that you are having a religious service now. Since you've already spoken your vows to each other and you are married you can call this a renewal of your marriage vows and have a religious person presiding over the ceremony. Then, have the reception you always wanted.
Personally, I think it makes for bad karma to start your marriage off with a fib. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
Etiquette Now
WEDDING ETIQUETTE EXPERT
Feb 22, 2005, 11:19 AM
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I completely agree. Your reaffirmation ceremony can be as formal as you wish also. As the reverand said, this is not uncommon. It happens all of the time. Rebecca Black, Etiquette Now
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