2 family members engaged who should get married first
I have 2 family members who have recently become engaged. One a few months ago, the other a few days ago. The first to get engaged is planning a Sept. 08 wedding, the second has announced that she wants to plan an Aug. 08 wedding. Most friends and family have come to the agreement that the second is only doing this to say that she got married first. Now, the first is the niece of the fiance of the second. It has created alot of hurt feelings for everyone. Most believe she is being extremely selfish. The mother of the first wants to say something to the fiance of the second, who happens to be her brother, but is unsure how to go about it. It's become a huge problem and if it's not resolved fairly quickly I'm afraid it will cause a rift that will not be able to be repaired.
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May 19, 2007, 3:20 PM
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Re: [applepie] 2 family members engaged who should get married first
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Dear Applepie,
If a mother says something it could cause a lot of problems unless she can discuss this without emotion. This should be handled very carefully. Perhaps a close friend could speak to the second bride.
Re: [Et.byRebecca] 2 family members engaged who should get married first
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I agree with you, but what is the proper etiquette regarding who was engaged first and who should marry first. And how far apart should the weddings be? At this time one is scheduled for the end of July the other mid Sept. which means one wedding will over lap with the others bridal shower. Almost half of the people that will be invited, will be invited to both showers and both weddings.
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May 21, 2007, 10:08 AM
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There is no etiquette rule concerning who gets engaged first and when they can marry, because the rule wouldn't always work. A person can become engaged, but not marry for three years. Should her sister wait? Of course not.
There also is no rule about how long we are to wait in between weddings for family member for the same reason. The rule wouldn't always work. But, we try to use some basic common sense. Two months is usually enough time in between. But again, this isn't always a safe amount of time for everyone. It should be though. Rebecca Black, Etiquette Now
2 family members engaged who should get married first
