My so-called "best friend" is getting married on Thanksgiving weekend overseas where she lives. I was orally invited, not by mail. I cannot make it. This is the biggest weekend for our family holiday.The date was set by the groom so his children could attend. This is a second marriage for both people in their 60's. The date is the same as her first failed marriage. I have not received an written invitation for this big affair although we are still considered to be "best friends." I feel she is being so manipulated by him...
1. Do I send a card?
2. Do I send a gift?
Yes, I am hurt by the choice of time being soley the groom's choice and I really don't like him either.
Although I hear your frustration, your friend's groom's children will be her new family. So, selecting a date that is best for all of them would be the right thing to do. If you can't make it your friend wil have to understand.
If she is your best friend, and you want to wish her well, send a card and/or gift. You're not obligated to do so by etiquette but if you love her then that's the right thing to do. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
2nd Marriage & Invitations & Gifts
