I have invited three out-of-town women to be my bridesmaids. All are married, two have children in the wedding. I know that it is proper to provide accommodations for out of town attendants, and I am willing to do so, but I just want to "push the limits" a little.
None of these women are aware of this etiquette. I know this because I was in two of their weddings and no accommodations were provided.
I could easily hostess them staying for free at my house, but not with their husbands and children. I thought of having a "girls sleepover" the night before my wedding, which could technically mean that I am providing their accommodations.... mayyybee?
All will be staying for 2-3 nights. Paying for 1 night seems a little awkward (which night? what if some choose bigger rooms? or the more expensive hotel?) All three women have very successful jobs and husbands. They will all probably opt for the most expensive accommodation options.
Okay, okay, I admit it... I'm looking for a loophole. Not to be cheap (well, a little) but also because no one I have ever talked with has experienced this tradition, so it feels extravagant. Are there any compromise solutions?
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Re: [futureplanning] Accommodations for bridesmaids
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Dear Futureplanning,
Yes, that is one big loop-hole and you are correct, not too many follow this rule. Your idea of a girl's sleep over is a very good one for the one night. If anyone could host each of them for another night, that would be great. But, the point is that they have families. This is the big stickler. What will the families do?
So, if you can find free housing for each family, you're home free. If not, you could find inexpensive rooms and don't allow them to choose. There is no rule that states that they are allowed to choose.
Accommodations for bridesmaids
