My wedding is in 2 weeks. Unexpectedly, I received a fantastic job offer that I could not pass up. I, of course, had already invited my current boss to the wedding and they already sent in their RSVP saying they were coming.
Since my new job wanted me to start after the wedding, and there was only 2 weeks left until the wedding, I thought it only to be right to give my notice. There was no other time to do so, even though it is such a horrible time to switch jobs! Well, it turned EXTREMELY ugly with her cursing at me and I ended up leaving before my 2 weeks were complete due to the hostile work environment. Now, I am unsure how to handle this. I do not want her at my wedding due to her treatment, but she has already made room arrangements at the hotel and sent her RSVP. I would also feel a bit odd asking former coworkers to fish for information if she would be coming or not, since they are very afraid of her and are looking for other jobs as well.
Should I just not make a place for her at the wedding? I don't want her to come in and see there is not a place for her and her be embarrassed, but I still don't want a person who was so hostile toward me to be sitting there watching my wedding. Help!
Typically polite people don't dis-invite, but in the case of abuse, the rules don't apply. This is an option: If you feel comfortable, as politely as possible call her and tell her that you feel in the light of recent events it will be an uncomfortable situation for all if she attends and then leave it up to her to decide. If she arrives, then hopefully she has decided to behave herself.
Thank you for your response. I think we may have to go another route just due to the fact that opening communications between her and I will only bring up things besides the wedding. I'm considering sending a letter with a return reciept. That way we know she will get it and it will be worded as nicely as possible.
Angry Former Boss
