Big problem - Invited an employee from my job who walked out & quit 1 day after the invites went out. I figured she would just decline coming or not respond at all. She just sent the response saying she was coming.Was going to just seat her away from the other work guests, which is difficult as my whole side is from work (tight knit group), but was going to try. However, I just found out that she left on bad terms, and has called other co-workers late at night to rant and bad mouth people. All of this before she mailed my response back. I've got a bad vibe that she is coming to my wedding to create a scene as a disgruntled employee. I don't want to stress over an acquaintance that no one keeps in touch with outside of work, or make everyone I work with feel uncomfortable with her there on my wedding day. Want to tell her she cannot come. I have no phone #, just an address. Can I write her to say not to come? Do I send certified so she doesn't show up anyway? I know this sounds terrible, but I'm having visions of fights and police at my wedding. Please help!
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Dec 23, 2006, 6:07 PM
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Re: [LpnBear] Asking an invited guest not to come
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Dear Dis-inviting,
Normally I would have to say that it is extremely rude to dis-invite a guest. And, it really is even in this case. But, if it is true that she has contacted other guests who may attend for a ranting session, this is not something you would want for your guests, because first and foremost, when we invite guests we want to be a good host. So... gosh, I do not like saying this, but you are left with little else to do, but to ask her to please stay home due to these issues. Please use your best tact. I truly wish you could do this in person though.
Asking an invited guest not to come
