One of my maids started to do the MOH duties. Then the maid started to rant about me and my fiance's cousin, who happens to be another maid, to my MOH and started to say some things about us that my MOH didn't appreciate. And yes, my MOH told me. Of course, I was a little upset and so was my MOH. So we went to talk to her about it. We did our best to be nice, but the maid took it to heart and said some things she shouldn't have said. She was like, "if I leave, everyone leaves." I found that insulting and rude.
Now, the maid, her two children and her BF are a part of the wedding. I don't mind if she steps down herself and takes her children with her, but it seems like she is convincing her BF, who's the BM, to not take part of this. And I'm not doing this to my fiance, and have told him that what happens between the girls shouldn't convince the boys to fight or take sides.
After the MOH and I talked to her, she called my fiance to try and get him to stand up for her, and to tell me and the MOH that we were in the wrong. He didn't appreciate this and nor do I because it felt like she was trying to turn my fiance against me.
Is it ok to ask her to step down? I'm only asking to get some advice on how to deal with this kind of situation.
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It's interesting that you use the words boys and girls to describe these people since this is how everyone is acting - like little boys and girls and not adults participating in a wedding. From the MOH who tattled on the friend, to the bridesmaid with the boyfriend with the children (Oh gosh) who is telling her "boyfriend" that he shouldn't participate...BIG SIGH.
I'd suggest you all take a step back and a deep breath. Bride and groom - get together and discuss these friends, your relationships and how to move forward. Make decisions as a couple. Then, whatever each of you decide, have a pow-wow with the bridal party and tell them what you have decided. If it were me, or you were my daughter, I'd be advising that the bride have a talk with her friends, asking them to step up to the plate as adults and to leave the tantrums at home - especially the mother with the two small children. Not a great role model for those kids. What a shame. If they cannot put their petty problems aside then they should make a decision to step down. Give them a few days to decide. Same goes for your groom. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
Asking bridesmaid to step down?
