Just want to know a nice way of inquiring to one attendant about his plans for his children during the rehearsal and rehearsal dinner. There are 4 ushers from out of town with children. Three of them have returned our polite request for their thoughts on whether they would need a sitter during their overnight wedding stay. In a previous e-mail to the guys we let them know we are providing individual hotel rooms for each couple, that there would be a nursery provided during the ceremony for children 5 and under and if they were going to need a sitter during the rehearsal/dinner to let us know because we would also provide one, or provide a separate room and meals for their own sitter, including a friend if she needed company and chose to bring one (figuring a high school student as sitter). Well we've heard from 3 of the 4, but have yet to hear from Russ and his wife. The other attendants have made arrangements for their children. We do know that Russ's parents live near him and could care for his children during the rehearsal event. We need an answer from Russ and would like to know a polite and proper way to inquire with him and his wife about their 2 little ones (ages 5 & 3). I've tried writing something light, not mentioning the other ushers responses, but saying that we need their input so we can iron out the plans regarding a sitter and mark the rehearsal/dinner task off our to do list. We are trying to be as polite as possible knowing that children are a touchy subject and we definitely don't want to be blunt and say "no children allowed", so what is the best way to address this issue since we are not wanting children at the rehearsal/dinner, the others have made proper arrangements and we wish to move forward without the cost of a sitter? Thank you
Etiquette Now
WEDDING ETIQUETTE EXPERT
Feb 12, 2007, 5:22 PM
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Re: [hankshoney] Attendants Children at Rehearsal/Dinner
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Dear Hankshoney,
It really sounds like you have all of your bases covered. You could just ask if he has made a decision about the sitter so you can make sure the sitter is available.
Attendants Children at Rehearsal/Dinner
