My sister's wedding came and went as best it could be from an outsider's point of view. Deep within the family's inner circle, everyone knew of the tension that sourrounded My sister (the bride),our mom and I.
From the beginning the bride unknowingly alienated us from any sort of participation. It became some sort of girlfriend "party"...that all my sister wanted to hear was comments, advice and decision coming from her briend (bridesmaids). Soon enough my mother and I felt very hurt that we were cast aside from what we initially thought was a very important and meaningful event in her life.
Our father passed away several years ago, and it was basically just the three of us that was left. We thought that she would have a more formal regard to including us in her planning or at least giving us the consideration.
Needless to say, I was also not her choice as maid of honor. Which became a very sad part in all this. I am stil happy for her, but now I can't beleive it went on and passed with leaving us no real emotion or deep feeling for it.
I know it's common that brides turn psycho for that moment. Is it right for us to feel or even discuss this with her?? I don't know if it' worth talking over, or will she feel offended that we are complaining? That after all was HER wedding. But as family, we cannot help but feel it was missing deeper meaning.And that the deeper meaning was given to outsiders more than family..HELP!
Jill
Psychotherapist: Second Weddings & Stepfamilies
I can certainly understand how hurt you must be feeling - but as you didnt talk to your sister at the time about it I think it might be better to try to put it behind you. Give her the benefit of the doubt and try not to let it turn into a real family rift. Jill Curtis Psychotherapist, Author How to Get Married ... Again (A Guide to Second Weddings) London, UK http://www.familyonwards.com
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My sister's wedding came and went as best it could be from an outsider's point of view. Deep within the family's inner circle, everyone knew of the tension that sourrounded My sister (the bride),our mom and I. 