Edited. Too much personal info. Question answered.
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RevSusanna
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Jan 14, 2005, 1:15 PM
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It seems to me that this is more a question of logistics rather than ethics. You can always explain that the tea ceremony is traditionally an intimate ceremony limited to immediate family members only. The main issue involves the folks who travel from afar. Where will they go? Perhaps you can find another location for the guests not participating in the tea ceremony. Is there a friend or family member who can help in this regard...by opening their home. Can you arrange for something for them to do? Otherwise, your travelling guests may only attend the reception and not the ceremony. One of my intercultural couples marrying here in NYC arranged a bus tour of the Big Apple between the time of the ceremony and reception.
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Etiquette Now
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Jan 14, 2005, 2:14 PM
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Dear Mousie,
Those are great suggestions. I just have one more thing to add. Perhaps you could schedule your family pictures earlier or on a different day. Many of the brides here will have pictures taken the day before their wedding so as not to interfere with their guests.
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During the photography session there will be no problem. Those who do not wish to watch that happen (let's face it, it might be a tad boring) will be able to sit around the cool, air-conditioned house and enjoy a bite to eat. My major concern is what to do with my out of town guests for the 2 hours my parent's home is unavailable (ie, the tea-pouring ceremony).
We'd considered having the tea-pouring on another day, but it is wholley inappropriate to do it before we are married, and we are leaving early on the Sunday morning for our Honeymoon.
I was afraid that the note was tacky, but if you think it is not, it seems to be the most viable solution at this point.
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Jan 14, 2005, 2:43 PM
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Actually, my point was that if you could take pictures before your wedding, you could schedule your reception earlier. Then you wouldn't have that waiting period. That is a long time in between wedding and reception. Rebecca Black, Etiquette Now
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