Boyfriend's sister did not include me on invitation and we've been together over three years
My boyfriend's sister and her fiance are getting married in five months. She recently sent out save the date cards, and my boyfriend received one addressed to him and guest. I am very hurt by this, because I know his sister and her fiance fairly well. I have been with my boyfriend for over three years and since we are in our 30's, it's not like we're a high school couple who have been dating for two weeks. I will be this woman's sister in law someday...most likely. My boyfriend and I have every intention of getting married in the next year or two, though we do not live together. To me, being listed as a guest is a slap in the face. I don't even want to attend the wedding anymore! Am I being an unreasonable brat, or am I right to be offended? If it were a friend of my boyfriend getting married, I'd be more understanding. But it's my boyfriend's sister! Should she have invited me by name? (By the way, I spend time with his family several days a week and am on great terms with them--so I thought.) My boyfriend acts like it's no big deal, but it's huge to me. Also, the sister and fiance have only been together six months longer than we have. Any thoughts? Thanks! M
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Yes, we always advise to print the name of the guest on the envelope, if you know the name. However, I would try not to make too much of this. Your boyfriend's sister could just think that "and guest" was the proper way to address the card.
Maybe someone will give the bride an early wedding present of a good wedding etiquette book.
I wouldn't take this personally, or possibly damage the great family relationship you seem to have there, especially if you plan to be a part of the family.
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Apr 6, 2007, 2:03 PM
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Re: [melissa73] Boyfriend's sister did not include me on invitation and we've been together over three years
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I have to tell you I agree... I would not make a big deal about this. I did our own invitations and when doing this I was not sure of the proper was to address things to individuals who may not have lived together but were together. Where I live if there is a name on something that the post man does not recognize he will not put in our box. Maybe she wanted to make sure your boyfriends name is on it knowing he was going to bring you put guest.
Maybe an etiquette book would have been a nice gesture for her but unless she plans on gettimg married again it wont help after the fact.
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Boyfriend's sister did not include me on invitation and we've been together over three years
