Brides mother and Grooms parents not on invitations
Hi, My daughter is getting married the end of the month and my X of 20 years is paying for it all,which is very nice. He has the money and I do not. My daughter and he had discussed how the invitations should be written, but at the last minute he changed it. It only had him and his wife invite you to wedding of HIS daughter to groom. He left out my name and also the grooms parents name. Our daughter is very upset and told him so, but of course she wants a nice wedding and just let go by. He apolgized to her, but that doesn't make me feel better. He told me it was proper protocol and etiquette for him to do so. If that is so, what is the proper thing for me to do now that the invitations are long out and can not be changed? I know what I would like to do to him but after 20 yrs you would think he could show some common sence. The wedding is NC, I live in TX and am driving to wedding and he lives in NJ, thank goodness for distance.
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Jul 12, 2004, 11:33 AM
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Sorry, but TECHNICALLY he is correct. The invitation is to be from the party paying for the event. Wedding announcements would be a differnt situation. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
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Jul 12, 2004, 12:59 PM
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Dear Mother of the Bride,
Yes, the Wedding Queen is correct. Sorry. But, there is a small problem that will arise soon. Traditionally, the parent who raised the bride (or groom) would sit in the first row and the other parent and spouse would sit in the third row during the ceremony. Yet, your ex and his spouse are acting hosts and will be expected to sit in the first row. This is tricky.
Unfortunately, you will need to keep an open line of communication between all of you, your daughter and ex, in order to know exactly what roll you will be expected to fill come wedding day. It sounds as if you will be treated as honored guest and your ex's spouse will be in the Mother of the Bride roll. This will be a tough pill to swallow, but... I am sorry. Please talk to them about this.
Brides mother and Grooms parents not on invitations
but after 20 yrs you would think he could show some common sence. The wedding is NC, I live in TX and am driving to wedding and he lives in NJ, thank goodness for distance. 
