I have a somewhat sticky situation. My fiancee has a good friend from high school who he wanted to include in the bridal party. This friend happens to be a girl and for the sake of unification I said that she could be a bridesmaid even though I'm not really friend with her. She agreed and bought the dress I had picked out. The problem came when she asked my fiancee if she could bring a friend (because her husband couldn't come), whom neither of us know to our small wedding. My fiancee felt like he could make an exception for her because they are good friends, but I did not agree. I thought it was really rude of her to ask to bring someone neither of us even know. As much as I explained how I felt to my fiancee we just can't agree. I don't want her to bring her friend, but part of me feels guilty for going against what my fiancee wants. Plus, I feel like perhaps because she agreed to be a bridesmaid that maybe she deserves special treatment. I am also slightly resentful because I would never ask to bring a friend to someone elses wedding. I don't know what to do!
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You seem to already be aware of the etiquette, so, other than telling you what is proper, we cannot solve issues between you and your fiance. The two of you will have to discuss and come to an agreement. If you are on a strict budget then tell your groom exactly what it will cost to host another guest or who you may have to exclude if this woman brings a friend. Perhaps that will help him see the issue clearly. If there is no budget, if it were me, I'd just let her bring the guest. Who needs more stress during the wedding planning? Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
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You're right. Causing more tension between my fiancee and I is definitely not what I want right now. Money is an issue however and we have not been able to invite friends because of it. For some reason though my fiancee doesn't really seem to care about the money issue in this case. I just don't want our other friends to wonder why we allowed someone to come we aren't friends with when we weren't able to invite other aquaintences.
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I can see your point. Hopefully your groom will too. These discussions and problem solving makes for really good marriage prep!
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I couldn't agree more. This is just a sample of the differences all of us endeavor to smooth out during our time as couples. Rebecca Black, Etiquette Now
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