My mother and father have been divorced for a long time, and both have since remarried. They all 4 get along really well. Then comes in my fiances family. His mom and dad had a messy divorce about 5 years ago. His dad has since remarried, but his mom hasn't. My fiance "Tom"s dads family was never nice to his mom, and for that reason she does not want me to invite anyone from his side, except for Toms dad. I understand where she is coming from, because they have been really awful to her, (all of them, grandma, grandpa, aunts uncles, the works...) and to tell you the truth they have not been so nice and accepting of me either, or my fiance for that matter. They are not outright mean, it's more of a behind the back kind of thing. Anyways back to my question. My FMIL won't come unless they all not invited, she hasn't seen any of them in 5 years and has no desire to either. I don't want to start a family feud by not inviting all of Toms family, and I really want my FMIL to be there. There are times when Tom has said to me that he couldn't care less if any of his family came. I just don't know what to do. Any suggestions? Thanks..
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Dec 28, 2006, 4:40 PM
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Re: [adair84] Can't we all just get along??
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Dear Adair,
There is no reason that they have to be there, especially if your fiance doesn't care. Only invite those very close to both of you.
Can't we all just get along??
