Our Jewish son will marry his Catholic fiance. They are combining some Jewish traditions with some Catholic ones. However, how do we stand up with our son, under the chuppa, when her parents are accustomed to sitting? Do you have any ideas on a compromise that may satisfy both sets of parents, so it does not appear lopsided?
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RevSusanna
Interfaith Wedding Minister
Sep 12, 2008, 9:29 PM
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In the hundreds of Catholic-Jewish ceremonies I have had the privilege to conduct---either both parents stand under the chuppah (many Catholic parents love it!) or both sets of parents sit close by. Careful, sensitive, non-judgmental and loving communication is advised. Shalom! Susanna Reverend Susanna Stefanachi Macomb Author of Joining Hands and Hearts, Interfaith, Intercultural Wedding Celebrations, A Practical Guide for Couples
RabbiFrank
Oct 14, 2008, 10:50 PM
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I agree with Reverend Susanna, an openly caring conversation with both families is important and hopefully a compromise can be agreed upon.
It would be helpful explaining the tradition how parents standing on each side symbolize the importance of family involvement. The Chuppah is the first home for the couple, the sides are open to welcome all and that would include family. Joining two families by marriage, and not just two individuals.
We often say, "Etyz Chayim - the tree of life - from generation to generation".
Combining Jewish and Catholic Wedding Traditions
