My sister is becoming a bridezilla and has made several etiquette blunders lately. I want her wedding to be a special day for her and don't want to upset her, but I don't want to spend the next few months tip-toeing around a self-absorbed monster. When is it OK to confront the bride and when should I just let it slide?
She's planning her own shower and bachelorette party, with no concept that these are optional events and the "hosts" (i.e. the bridal party, whether they plan or not) should be able to decide for themselves what their budget will be for the event. "But it's my day, it's what I want" seems to be her motto as of late. The final straw came recently when she sent out an itemized spreadsheet of her wedding costs to her bridesmaids for "feedback," with no concept that this might be insensitive (not to mention completely tacky) to her bridesmaids, who are either unmarried (and thus unable to comment about the going rate for wedding videographers) or they are married, but were financially limited and spent a fraction of bridezilla's current budget.
She's not big on etiquette (obviously) and sees no problem with her lack of filters. I'll never get her to read this site or any other ettiquette book. So I imagine things will get worse eventually. Am I over-reacting? At what point do I say something?
It may be best to speak up now and tell her how she will be viewed and how uncomfortable you are. Perhaps you could tell her that you will not host a shower or anything else that she plans. It may also help if you had a parent who could help her understand her social faux pas.
Confront budding bridezilla?
