My fiancee and I have decided to get married after 7 years of dating. I was engaged late last year, and didn't select my wedding date until 3 weeks ago. A cousin became engaged two months after I did and mentioned she would like to get married in July, but never confirmed this.
Once I finally narrowed my wedding to a day in June and locked it in with the reception hall and ceremony site, I called her to check when her wedding date was (to make sure they weren't on the same day) we found out that they are two weeks apart.
She seems to be upset at me, but I was engaged first and was having trouble narrowing down the date b/c of budget and location. Now, I feel like I cannot share any of my wedding details with her. I really don't and can't change my date. I am so upset that we did not communicate earlier, but we only have about 15 guests in common. Is this something we can pull-off?
My dates are reserved (deposits paid) and so are hers (I think). Besdies, I'm afraid that if I make plans with her date in mind that her wedding will be cancelled. She's known the guy for a couple of months and they bring children from a previous relationship. I'm not trying to make excuses, but what if I change my date and they end up getting in a fight?
Thanks.
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May 16, 2007, 9:13 AM
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Re: [in despair] Cousin's Wedding too close
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it really doesn't matter who was engaged first. She had her date selected before you so you should have checked with her and selected a date separated by at least a couple of months. Families might now have to choose which wedding to attend being that they are scheduled so close together, especially those having to travel. Also, showers and per-wedding party dates could clash.
I'm not sure what sort of advice to give you since you already have the date and venue booked but if there is any way you can change the date I would. It will makes things easier for both of you. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
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May 16, 2007, 10:40 AM
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I completely agree. Two weeks is too close and unfortunately the onus is on you. Rebecca Black, Etiquette Now
Cousin's Wedding too close
