I have been having real trouble with the day after brunch. From the very beginning, my mom offered to do something simple at her house, which both my fiance and I were excited about. My fiance's mom wanted to have it out at a restaurant/hotel, however, and even offered to pay for 1/2 of it, but we declined, as we both thought my mom's home was perfect and knew she really wanted to host it. Yesterday, I finally got the an invite list for the brunch and his mother wants to invite 70% of her wedding guests! This means that my fiance and I wouldn't be able to invite anyone, she would have 2/3 of the guests at the brunch, and we're not sure that my mom's home could even fit everyone. I wanted my fiance to talk to his mother and get her list halved, but he says he knows that won't be possible because it's all family so they all have to be invited (something I don't super agree with).
To fix all this, my sister suggested that we simply have 2 brunches, although not simultaneous ones. The thought is that my fiance's mom would have one in the morning at a restaurant and then my mom would have one midday at her house. His mom could then invite everyone she wants and do it some place fancier, which would make her happy. And, we could have the simple, small one with our friends (and my mom's friends and family) at my mom's house later. Is this done? And, if so, would my immediate family have to go to my fiance's mother's brunch in the morning? I think it's asking too much to have them go to 2 parties, especially as they should be at my mom's getting her own brunch in order.
If this doesn't work, do you have another solution that might?!?!
Etiquette Now
WEDDING ETIQUETTE EXPERT
Jun 30, 2007, 3:08 PM
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Re: [mott07] Day After Brunch Headache
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Dear Mott,
This isn't a reception and is completely optional. Many do not host this. So, if your future mother in law wants to host a second 'reception', then the onus is on her to host it. Your mother is not responsible to host any of her guests. This should be something that is personal and include those who are close. Many times we invite our out of town guests.
Day After Brunch Headache
