I am really struggling with this situation & I need some advice. My niece is getting married next August - she asked my youngest daughter to be her MOH & she asked (through my youngest) my oldest to be a bridesmaid. In total, she asked five girls to stand with her. They've all been dress shopping, etc. In other words, the fun had already begun. Now, however, her fiance has decided that he only wants three groomsmen (one of them NOT being my nephew!). So, yesterday, my niece demoted two bridesmaids (one of them being my oldest daughter) to "honorary" status. What do I do? My sister told her to do whatever she thinks is best (thereby not reiterating the fact that family relationships are important). When my niece was little she stayed with us a lot (she even wrote a paper in HS about how I was more of a mom to her than her own mom). I am hurt and angry, and at this point I want to pull my youngest daughter out of the wedding party as well. I'm just really torn - my oldest is hurt (obviously) - about what I should do, if anything. Help!
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edited by TWQadmin on Jun 8, 2008, 11:57 AM)
There isn't anything you can do, as it is not something you should be involved in. However, you can tell her how you feel. And, you could suggest that she read what is proper.
It isn't polite to demote someone. Plus, the sides don't have to be equal. She could have more attendants than her fiance.
It wasn't obligatory for her fiance to ask your son to stand on his side. These attendants should be close to him.
Thank you for responding. I know that there's really nothing that I can do about my niece or her decisions. It's just disappointing that she would act this way.
Also, it's not my son that she's not using in the wedding party - it's her only brother.
I guess I just needed to vent - and I appreciate the opportunity. Thank you
Demoted to Honorary Bridesmaid
