Do I Ask Parents to Contribute to Wedding Expenses?
My fiance and I have been engaged for a few weeks and have opted not to have a long-engagement. Our wedding is in 9 months. My first wedding - his second. My mother, divorced from my father, is not financially in a position to help at this point, has been the only one to mention "contribution". Do we ask if they plan to contribute? My father and his parents live out of state and have never met, so without our communication they would not have a way to initiate contact. Is this done tactfully? Or do we leave well-enough-alone?
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It's really not the parents' responsibility to contribute so you should wait them to offer. Of course, if you have a close, loving relationship with your parents and you communicate on a regular basis I'm sure the subject will come up, allowing them to offer if they feel compelled to do so. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
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I completely agree. All contributions are gifts, so it would be like asking for a gift if you or your fiance inquired. It would put them in a difficult situation. Rebecca Black, Etiquette Now
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If you are in regular contact with your father, your mother and his parents, you should facilitate contact between them appropriately as a courtesy to your growing new family - but under no circumstances should this be done as a ploy to get money. Budget and plan for your wedding as if you two will be taking total financial responsbility - if someone offers, you will be ahead. If not, you'll have planned realistically. Shayna Walker, Williamsburg Wedding Design http://www.williamsburgweddingdesign.com
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